Health is wealth

As much as we aspire to have male children, we are supposed to acquire knowledge in all aspects and in stages required appropriately. The oldest society valued the boy child compared to the girl child. Most heavy duties and taking care of the family were their task. They could look after their mothers even after the passing of the father since it was a mandate, one that couldn't be escaped. Training was done by the elders who made sure that boys were well equipped with skills to empower them and make them good fathers and elders, 'the face of tomorrow.' The core values of the society stipulated that the man was the head of the family and was expected to take good care of the coming generation without a mess. They were also expected to solve social, economic and political issues spotted. A lot has changed since the coming of the white man. Explorers came to bring changes, and they didn't just teach us about life; they ruined our lives. The betterness of the society start...

While growing, I used to have cravings for a newborn. Having raised my siblings as a nanny was awesome and beautiful. Some days it was rough, but some were quite cute. Laughter took a bigger percentage than sorrow. We used to play, catch up and learn new dynamics. In short, life was at its best. Back then, family was formed by two: a father as the head and a mother as the house manager. Mama made sure that things were in place, as papa on his side, was the director of all things being done.  Yes, family was a basic unit, treasured and well taken care of. There were minimal breakups, and if they happened was after arrangements had been made by both families. If one got engaged with a kin, then the families could come to an agreement to end it, as it involves 'blood line' as my grandma put it. Family was cherished, and those with many children were valued since they were seen as a pillar of generational continuity. Being called mama or baba so and so was quite overwhelming and wa...

Mourning is the emotional expression in response to a significant life event that causes grief, especially the loss of a loved one. It majorly occurs as a result of someone's death, especially a loved one. It, however varries depending on feelings and context. It is how much you meant when you were alive. On several occasions, one is allowed to mourn their loved one; the expression conveys how close the relationship was. In many cases, people wear a black robe as a sign of grief. Black represents the dark times, heartbreaking terrors and disbelief.  I write this piece with a heavy heart, mixed reactions and disbelief. I don't know how, but I truly know the what and who. Losing a family member or a friend ain't easy. It feels like a pinch or a bite of a siafu(ant), which leaves one with extreme pain. Death is indeed part of life, but one that does not knock. Unlike giving birth, death comes unexpectedly, and it hits hard, even beyond heartbreak. I'd rather have 100heartb...